Let me give you a brief description of how my 5 year old's class works.
You have 4 ticket.
You start each day on white.
Warnings result in a green ticket being pulled.
You then get a yellow ticket.
Last ticket given out is red.
A note is sent home for a yellow or red ticket. You are also given a brief description of what the reason was for the tickets pulled. If you pull a yellow or red ticket you do not get to play at recess and you are sent to another room or principals office for your behavior.
Zachary has pulled 2 red tickets and 1 yellow ticket in the past couple of weeks.
Before this he never pulled tickets... not even green.
Do I feel like we have an issue?
No.
Not with my child anyway.
And I'll explain myself.
I have a 5 year old.
A 5 year old little boy.
His reasons for his yellow ticket today were "horseplaying and talking while the cone was on the table at lunch".
Sounds like typical 5 year old little boy behavior to me.
He also got in trouble for running & doing cartwheels in P.E.
Again, typical 5 year old little boy behavior.
Yet I'm expected to address these issues at home to insure they wont be an continuous problem at school.
I hate to be the voice of reasoning but unless I can magically transform my 5 year old little boy into a grown man he will always act like a 5 year old little boy.
I will address issues of defiance and disrespect. Those will not be tolerated. However, I can't force myself to discipline my 5 year old for 5 year old behavior.
I've been struggling on this issue for the past month. I started out with the belief that any issues at school would be addressed immediately. However, after hearing the reasons behind his tickets I am standing firm that there seems to be some unrealistic behavior goals being set in 5K.
So I ask... What are your thoughts?
What do you do when your child is sent home with discipline notes from school?
I've got a parent/teacher conference to go over these types of issues coming up soon so I'd like some feedback from other experienced mama's out there.
I am like you. If it isn't "threatening" behavior I usually just let it go. They know how to act and what is expected, but they are still little boys. I try to take things case by case!
ReplyDeleteJust a quick update on this blog entry- Yes, I know it's late.
ReplyDeleteWe had our parent/teacher conference and found out that Zachary's teacher agrees that some of these are ridiculous but explained they were school rules. I get that. His teacher is amazing and I am glad that Zachary got her as his first teacher. I just hope next years teacher is as wonderful as his K5 teacher was! We'll miss you Ms. Warble!