Friday, October 7, 2011

I sure do miss my OBGYN Dr. Bailey right about now.....

I spent the better part of my teenage years looking for a doctor who didn't say the words "You'll never have children" in our first appointment. Endrometriosis had effected my life so much already, and I refused to believe God would give me the desire to become a mother and raise lots of babies and never bless me with a fruitful womb. I can't recall every doctor I saw, but I do know that I went to every doctor in my area, and those within an hour drive each direction. None seemed like they were willing to help me. And then I met Dr. Bailey at Lakeside OBGYN. I can only compare my first appointment with Dr. Bailey to the first time I met my husband. (well... the first time I met him when I was old enough and wise enough to get to know him) It was "love" at first chat. No, I'm not in love with my OBGYN. Not like that anyway. But after we spoke for the first time, he looked at me and said "I will never tell you that you will carry a baby, but I also will never tell you that you won't." I KNEW at that very moment, I had finally found the doctor I had been looking for. You can read my first blog entry for all the details after that visit.

Lets fast forward to yesterday.

I went to my new OBGYN (in another state) and was nervous after my diagnosis I was given the previous night but hopeful that I would be able to grasp what was happening to my body. I got weighed, to which I saw that in 2 weeks I had lost 11lbs, and went into the exam room. I waited and within a few minutes Dr. White walked in. He never introduced himself but instead looked at me puzzled and asked "Now why are you here again?" I, now just as confused as he was, began to explain that I had been to the ER twice in one week, and the previous night had been told by the OBGYN at the hospital that I had Hyperemesis Gravidarum. I handed him the paper they had given me at the hospital with the diagnosis on it hoping it would ring a bell. (The OBGYN I saw at the hospital told me he would be speaking to Dr. White and explaining the situation before my visit) Dr. White glances at the page and half way throws the paper back to me explaining I do NOT have HG. In fact, he proceeded to tell me I had a virus. Or perhaps just a weak stomach. It would pass around 14 weeks into the pregnancy. I am now fighting back tears. Tears of frustration, tears of anger. I KNEW this feeling. The feeling of realization that yet another doctor would not be helping me figure things out. I would say I would make this story short, however the visit itself lasted about 10 minutes tops, so I'll finish it. He then proceeded to tell me that all I could take was Zofran, to which I explained to him I had been taking and has now stopped working. With zero sympathy he tells me that's all I can take and he doesn't know what to tell me. I immediately begin to cry. Not the quiet crying, but the sobbing uncontrollably kind of crying. He isn't affected. I asked him what am I supposed to do now? The Zofran isn't working, the phenergan isn't working, and I'm still making a trip to the ER twice a week. His response? "Well I guess you'll be making a lot of trips to the ER for fluids then now wont you?" Yes. I'm serious. That was his response. And at that, still crying my eyes out, he stands up, and walks out the door. I only knew the visit was over because I saw my check out form laying in the chair he had been sitting in.

And so I've spent the better part of the day enjoying what will probably be my last day of not puking 15 times. I've chased my children around the house, found 25 tickle bugs that attacked the boys, and played as many games with them as I could think of.

I have called and made another appointment with the same practice (but a different doctor) hoping they will redeem themselves before I change practices. I will see a doctor on Monday who will hopefully be able to give me a little more hope on the outlook of my HG. I'll keep you posted.


PS. If you live in the North Georgia area and need an AMAZING OBGYN, go see Dr. Bailey. You will not be disappointed. He makes good doctors look bad. Seriously. Go see him. Here is his facebook link, as well as his website. You could even tell him I sent you, he may treat you extra special. :)

(I like to think I'm his favorite patient)

Lakeside OBGYN Facebook Page- Dr. Bailey
Dr. Bailey's Website

14 comments:

  1. Girl... wow I am so sorry. I have had some HORRIBLE experiences with OB doctors and I am so sorry that you had to go through that. I hope and pray you find another one like your Dr. Bailey

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  2. Thanks Lindsey! I'm not sure it is even possible to find a doctor like Dr. Bailey however I'm hoping to find one that at least I like and can help me get through all this mess. Makes me miss living in Ga even more. :(

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  3. Hang in there sweetie. We are searching for an OB who truly understands the seriousness of HG and can help you and your baby. I found one who is too far away from you however, maybe you could call her and see if she knows someone who can help you. Hugs <3

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  4. Where is that doctor at? I'm crossing my fingers and hoping this doctor will at least pretend to acknowledge that this isn't just normal morning sickness.

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  5. If I lived anywhere near you I would punch that doctor in the face! Did he get his degree with a cereal-box or what???
    Hope you have a better experience monday or you will find a great doctor elsewhere!

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  6. Normally I would have too. I also would have normally told the lady at the checkout counter if she billed me for that visit I would refuse to pay it but I didn't. I was so upset and felt so defeated that I just left crying. I'm hoping I get better results Monday. ( I did however call the next day and let the receptionist now that I never wanted to see that doctor EVER again)

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  7. SWEETIE YOU NEED TO GO AND SEE THAT OBGYN WITH GUN BLAZING I WANT YOU GOING IN TO THAT DOCTORS ON MONDAY AND PREPARE TO FIGHT FOR YOUR LIFE AND YOUR BABIES ! I WANT YOU TO GO ON THE INTERNET AND PRINT OUT WHAT YOU CAN FROM THE HER WEBSITE AND TELL THIS DOCTOR HOW IT'S GOING TO BE ! YOU TELL THEM YOU ARE SICK AND COULD DIE FROM THIS YOU NEED HOME HEALTH CARE AND FLUIDS AROUND THE CLOCK AND THEY NEED TO DO THIS FOR YOU OR YOU WANT A REFERRAL TO SOMEONE WHO WILL HELP YOU AND YOUR BABY
    I WAS SO SICK WITH HG AND LIVE IN CALIFORNIA I HAVE KAISER HMO INSURANCE THEY WERE GOD AWEFUL TOME I WAS ON MY DEATH BED AFTER ENDLESS TRIPS TO L& D FOUR TO FIVE TIMES A WEEK AND THE ER BEFORE MY BABY GOT BIG ENOUGH IT WAS AWEFUL ! I HAD TO DO THE HARDEST THING SWEETIE TO SAVE MYSELF AND MY BABY AND THAT WAS DAMAN A PICC LINE AND HOME HEALTH CARE I TOLD THEM HOW IT WAS GOING TO BE INSTEAD OF THEM COMING IN LIKE USUAL AND TELLING ME STUPID BS AND CALLING ME A DRUG ADDICT BECAUSE ZORFRAN AND EVERYTHING THEY GAVE ME DIDN'T WORK ! I WANT U GOING IN WITH GUNS BLAZING READY TO STAND UP FOR YOUR HEALTH AND YOURS BABIES THESE DUMMIES R NOT GOING TO DO IT FOR YOU ! I DID RESERCH ON THE INTERNET AND THESE LOVELY PEOPLE SENT ME A WHOLE BOOK ON PAPERBACK ABOUT HG AND THIS BOOK HELP ME STAND UP FOR MY HEALTH CARE I THINK THE AUTUR NAME IS ASHLEY ! I KNOW YOU R SO VERY SICK AND YOU R SO SICK THROWING UP NON STOP BUT SWEETIE YOU NEED TO STAND UP FOR YOUR CARE I DID THIS AND IT WAS THE ONLY I MEAN THE ONLY THING THAT SAVED ME AND MY DAUGHTER ! I WAS SICK NON STOP 24/7. SOMETIMES WOULDNT HAVE ABREAK FROM VOMITING FOR A FEWHOURS FOR UP TO 82+ HOURS OF ALL DAY AND NITE WITH MY BUCKET IN BED DRAINED FROM THE ENDLESS GAGGING VOMITED AND RELTCHING
    PLEASE GO IN THERE ARM WITH PAPERS FROM THE HER WEBSITE LIKE I DID THAT HAS A DIFFERENT LIST OF ALL KINDS OF MEDS U CAN TRY AND DEMEND THEY NEED TO TRY SOME ON U TO HELP U AND UR BABY !
    THIS WAS ONE OF THE HARDEST THINGS I EVER DID I NOT THE TYPE OF PERSON TO DEMAND STUFF AND TELL PEOPLE HOW IT'S GOING TO BE BUT IT'S WAS MY FIRST BABY THAT I WAS TOLD I COULD NEVER HAVE SO I DID ALOT OF PRAYING ASK GOD TO PLEASE HELP GIVE ME THE STRENTH TO TELL THESE DOCTORS TO TREAT ME AND ONCE I DID IT I WAS SO PROUD OF MYSELF ! I WAS A CRYING SOBBING MESS WITH HG KNOWONE WOULD HELP ME AND I WAS SCARED AFTER LOSSING SO MUCH WEIGHT NO FOOD OR WATER I HAD TO FIGHT!
    I KNOW U CAN DO IT DOLLFACE I KNOW U CAN PLEASE TAKE A STAND AND FIGHT DEMAND SCREAM DO WHATEVER YOU GOT TO DO SO U CAN GET THE CARE U NEED FOR U AND THAT BEAUTIFUL BABY
    U DIDN'T LET EDROMEOSIS STOP U FROM HAVING BABIES SO PLEASE STAND A STAND AND FIGHT FOR UR HEALTH AND CARE AND MOST OFF THAT BABY
    I WISH U THE MOST MOST LUCK AND PRAY THIS OB WILL LISTEN TO U AND SAVE U GUYS BEFORE IT GETS ANY WORSE
    GOD BLESS AND I KNOW U CAN BE STRONG AND DO THIS
    GOD BLESS
    STARR STRONG

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  8. I saw your blog link on TBW and I'm not exactly sure where you live but I thought I would suggest a doctor, if you are in the Spartenburg area still.


    http://wkstafford.wordpress.com/2011/10/26/my-birth-plan/

    My friend Julie is a doula and Hypnobabies instructor in Upstate SC and she highly recommends him. I posted a link to the docs new blog. He sounds very caring, if you are in that area. If you are in North Georgia, I'm in Chattanooga and I've heard good things about Dr. Seeber. Good luck.

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  9. Thank you!! His blog doesn't say where he works? I've got a lot of things backed against me... VBAC, baby with shoulder dystocia, and now HG. I need to make sure whatever doctor I choose is okay with all of these things.

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  10. I googled him. Looks like he is in Greer.. which is about a 30 minute drive. :( I do still live in Spartanburg... Does he work for an OBGYN or in Family Medicine?

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  11. Not that far. You still manage to drive that off.

    click here

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